The ASH Approach Blog
Social skills for success around the world
How Cancer Saved My Life
My final paper was due at noon for a summer class I was taking to graduate early. As per usual, I had left my conclusion to the last minute. I liked to get the paper written, then give it a day to settle, then re-read it and write the conclusion...
Why He Should Love You More Than You Love Him
I had my mind blown over dinner with a friend recently on the side of a cliff in Bali. It wasn’t the worst place to have my opinion destroyed. She told me about an interaction she’d had with a close friend’s mother when she was a young...
Who’s Worth More: How Taking it Slow Elevates Your Status
Imagine a scenario if you will: two consultants sit down for a lunch together for one full hour. One of the consultants charges $1000/hour; let’s call her “A”. The other, or “B”, charges $100/hour. Try to picture their behavior over lunch. Who...
What I Learned as a Student at Columbine High School
Growing up I attended many schools: Private schools, where I had to wear a jacket and tie; hardcore public schools where metal detectors and fights were a daily occurrence; and hippy schools like Waldorf where we would sing and draw most of the day....
Should Men Use Money as a Lure or a Lock?
Speaking in evolutionary terms, women seek safety and security while men seek beauty. Men want to make healthy babies and women want to make sure those babies survive to adulthood. Don’t get upset when men are obsessed with younger women and...
The Importance of Being Autonomous
Being overly easygoing can be detrimental to your happiness. Why? Compliance is all about not making waves, just going with the flow no matter what. It comes from the low-status mindset of thinking that other people’s opinions and behaviors are more...
The Sexy Sense of Humor
Humor is the closest thing to a magic bullet for attraction and building rapport. Making people laugh is the best way to quickly stand out from the pack. Being funny in the right kind of way is extremely attractive. But not all kinds of humor work....
The Art of Conversation
As much as we communicate from behind a screen these days, in-person communication is unavoidable. Confident, effective communication skills are often more important than your actual words. The ability to start, maintain, and guide a conversation is...
Body Language: Essential to Attraction
The language everyone is speaking but few truly understand, body language is absolutely essential to the attraction process, especially when you want to make a good first impression. That’s why body language training is an essential part of the...