The voice is such an interesting thing to look at because in many ways it’s a microcosm for all of your habits and behaviors. Most people identify themselves with their habits, saying things like “This is just how I talk. I have a quiet voice.” While this is true – you were born with a unique larynx and lung capacity – it is possible to change your voice and in doing so, change the way people see you.
Quiet Talkers vs. Loud Talkers
Talking quietly or speaking into your chest is something that many people tend to do. They just don’t think of themselves as loud talkers. In most cases, those who speak quietly are afraid to rock the boat and expose themselves. Even if that’s not the case, it’s interpreted that way.
In the world we live in today, we know there are appropriate times to talk quietly and appropriate times to talk loudly. However, a large percentage of the population is afraid to be loud even in situations that require it. Talking quietly by default speaks volumes about a person’s internal status and sense of themselves. Keeping your volume down automatically is a great way to make yourself seem small. For many, the logic behind this behavior is that if nobody can hear you, they are less likely to challenge you. A person who has high status is open to challenge from all directions and asserts their statements for all to hear.
Find a Balance
Like many aspects of social training, pushing too far in either direction can achieve the opposite effect. Somebody who talks loudly all the time regardless of the circumstances is going to project low-status intentions. Similarly, someone who speaks quietly at the right times that call for a lighter touch will project higher status.
My recommendation: gauge the room and go about 10% louder than everyone else.
Live out loud,
Devon OB Ash
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